As many of you know, I write a politically motivated blog as well as this personal journey blog. In both I try to find a balance between what I truly believe and what I would like the reader to understand. It is the news commentators and “talking heads” jobs to slant your information. I especially try to invoke those things that we might see as common values. A friend of mine sent me a meditation quote that I found very helpful in this ideal, and I would like to share parts of it and see what you think.
If we look at history, I think we can see a constant swinging back and forth between two poles, Right and Left, representing two necessary values….
I believe that we truly do need people who disagree with us on principle, if for no other reason than to make us consider our true opinion and where it comes from. I would never want to become “stuck” with an idea or ideal.
The first value seeks order, certitude, clarity and control. It is the best way to start. But whenever that pattern is in place for too long or is too overbearing, what will eventually emerge is a critical alternate consciousness.
Simply put, stay in one place too long and you will become rooted. Many of my fellow bloggers here have discussed that very idea. That sticking to the things we may have brought into our lives from childhood would hold us back, not allow us to grow and to change. We have become a group that is very much about the change in ourselves and our lives as the changes occur. It is something I look forward to reading about and love in each of you.
. Once you have an establishment, you will eventually have a dis-establishment. When some have all the power, those who don’t have power ask very different questions, and the pendulum swings back again—eventually……..
It is understandable and predictable, although the extremism on both sides could be avoided if we had more initiated elders who held the middle.
There is a great thought for our fearless leaders and all who follow them. There is a way to avoid the extremism, simply acknowledge and understand the other side of the argument. I was very surprised and educated one day when my husband argued an issue with me by repeating the values of a different side. It wasn’t his value, but he used it as a teaching tool. I learned, surprisingly!
These thoughts are from a treatise called “A Lever And A Place To Stand” by the Center For Action And Contemplation in Albuquerque, New Mexico. The writer’s name is Richard.
It was this time many years ago, with this type of cool and sunny day when my life changed forever. My oldest son went to play with friends, and never came home. It was an accident, it really wasn’t anyone’s fault. I know that I blamed God for years for taking my son from me. I know now that wasn’t true. It was just a day like any other. For a short time.
This horrid thing should never happen to any parent. My son was 12 and 1/2 years old. Parents lose older and younger children. It’s the nightmare you dread from the day they are born.
I guess I am sharing this today, because it is his Memorial Day. It was a day, in May, with the sun shining, and the younger kids laughing.
This day, like all the Memorial Days since then, has given me opportunities to ponder and grow.
I miss my son so very much. He was a happy and playful child. He adored his younger brothers and sisters, and loved being their babysitter. They lost a lot, in that day like today.
I have been thinking about how our country works, the way we give to those in need and the methods we use to go about it. In the Bible Luke 6:30 states: “Give to anyone who asks; and when things are taken away from you, don’t try to get them back.” I really had to think about that quote for a long time before I could comment on it. Giving when we want to is easy, it’s a joy to share when we WANT to. Sharing because it is the “right thing to do” is not as easy, and giving because you “have to” is even less appealing. Still, I find that the United States as a whole had believed in helping those less fortunate by having everyone share in the “giving”. In the past ten years, however, that has been less and less so, to the point that we have Americans who are angry and jealous because they are “forced to” share.
Social programs that were put in place to prevent abject poverty, such as Social Security, Welfare, and medical insurance programs such as Medicare and Title 19 are a few examples of how we, as a country, share the wealth. Even more so are the heating assistance programs, the food programs for women and children, and the educational support, all contributing toward making life better for those less fortunate. These programs have their faults, as all social welfare programs tend to, but they serve a useful purpose. The social mobility that is available to the person who uses these programs as a benefit has been seen as a good thing up until recently. Abuses of the system do not prove that the system is wrong, only that the abuser needs to be brought to task.
Our identity as Americans that live in a land of opportunity and equality is being threatened by our desire to pick who we share with. In a financial system that does not prevent abject poverty, but instead could increase it substantially will put us on the level of countries who have a class system. Instead of focusing on the things that need to be done, and focusing on the price tag attached to everything, we will end up with very rich and very poor people. This is not someplace America wants to go. Focusing on how the system has been abused, and putting in preventive triggers makes more sense, and is in better keeping with our forefather’s traditions.
I was sitting at the computer yesterday, when my grandson arrived to spend the day. Immediately, the near two-year old asked if he could watch both “Boowah” and “Elmo“. Since I love that he loves music, I turned the children songs on, and started a clean-up project I had in the same room. Still that begged the question, was I watching the baby, or was the computer? Did I need to be “with him” or “around” him?
For a very long time I have landed on the side of the argument that states that a child should learn from their exposure to television, music, electronic games, or computer use. I don’ t believe we should have electronic babysitters. I can give you an easy demonstration why! :
Sit and watch your child or grandchild’ favorite television show with them. Watch for product placement during the show, the commercials, and the periphery during the show. Sales of cereals, games, and music are all present. Toward the end of a show you will often see the child convinced he needs one thing or another. Even items that he or she is plainly too old for!
On the internet the subliminal sales and politicking are worst. Children are forming opinions on subjects they don’t understand. The commercials are most intrusive. My humble thought is that I will need to filter his exposure to all of this, by sitting with him and emphasizing the learning options that are handy. Wondering if anyone else sees it this way?
I often refer to my husband Scott as my best friend. That is simply because he has been the best friend one could have. The fact that we were friends before we became involved with each other helped, and I am delighted to say that after 38 years of marriage, we still remain friends. He knows all of me, the good, the bad, and the really ugly. He has been there through some of the thickest parts of my life, and the parts that I am not proud of. He has encouraged me and helped me become the best of me that I can. In total, he has taught me how to be a very good friend.
In my world, good friends are less interested in making a point, and more interested in just the discussion. It might seem funny at first, but you might try arguing the opposite of your point of view sometime. It is an absolute exercise in opening your mind and looking at the world differently. Scott also taught me that it is ok to take a stand on something, and stick by it. This is especially difficult in family situations, but sometimes you just have to say what you think and let it sit there. While I have never refused to compromise when it made sense, I have also learned how to stand for those things that are truly important.
With Scott I have learned to listen without comment, or to let a friend vent without making them feel bad. I have learned to tell people how much I appreciate them, and how important they are to me. My husbands’ parents taught me how to be an excellent and loving parent.
All in all, I was blessed by the Good Lord to have a life partner and love of my life all in one. I understand that is rare these days. I hope for all I talk to and spend time on blogs with, and people I know…that they have the same in their lives. Thanks for listening!
While busy registering voters, updating my comments on your blogs as much as possible, and just life getting away from me, I got a little behind in the shuffle. Still, so many good entries on your parts have been great!. My birthday came, and my friends made the miracle happen. My photo is finally here!
And so: I share with you the one of the most exciting days of my life. I am still grinning ear to ear as I upload.
Wanted to let you all know that I am finally getting some time to resume my writing, and looking forward to that as well.